An affirmation is a declaration that something is true. It can be your life’s Villain or Avenger. My 11th-grade math’s teacher once declared (in front of my entire class) that I would amount to nothing. He pronounced my worthless future in 5 cruel words.
I was embarrassed and hurt. And as I wandered through life, I tested myself against this affirmation. When I lived through failures, his words rang loud and true. On the flip side, with every success – I sauntered around with an In-Your-Face- Mr. Singh attitude.
What I learned from this is that even the smallest negative one-liner, can affect you for years. Our ever-efficient mind has this annoying tendency to absorb negative information and to bring it up when we least need it. And if we are not careful, these negative words feed our internal dialogue which can result in self-sabotage.
Positive affirmations are excellent as a short-term hack to get through tough times. However, if you are struggling with low self-esteem, your competent mind will kick out these positive affirmation statements since it conflicts with your belief system. Here are a few tips to get affirmations to work for you.
1. Be Rebellious
To counter negative statements, establish your own set of self-beliefs. Finally – this is where you being stubborn and rebellious is a worthy trait to embrace.
Do the opposite of what the negative noise-makers say. Do the opposite of what is expected. Prove otherwise to them and yourself – you are so much more than mere words!!! I have two science degrees and a long list of other academic accolades. I had a wonderfully successful career and now I am living my dream life. Those significant words actually had the opposite effect – it had me create a worthy and meaningful future for myself.
2. Believe what you choose to affirm
You need to first believe that what you choose to affirm can be true. First, have faith in your abilities. You are like every other human – created with unlimited potential. You are the creator of your world. What you choose to believe and action is a choice. Your choice. Second, set realistic goals for yourself and create positive affirmations that reflect that goal.
3. Surround yourself with positive affirmations
As you navigate through the day, facing worldly nasties – you may require a mood makeover, a confidence boost or a reminder of worthiness.
Place positive affirmations in spaces that catch your attention – like on your desk, diary/calendar, screensaver, bathroom, car visor, pencil case, fridge, walls – you get the picture…
Mix it up and change them from time to time so that your mind doesn’t pass them over.
When you are absorbed in negativity, you forget to go searching for affirmations – so these friendly prompts help shift your mind without any effort. It also maintains positivity. Remind your mind that there is so much more to you.
4. Visualise your affirmation
Add visualization with your affirmation words to strengthen this belief. See yourself being that which you wish to affirm. Create visual cues to aid this – like vision boards or mind movies. Use visualization in your morning and evening meditation session.
5. Repeat out loud
Everyone has different challenges in their life. Think about what aspects of your life require a mind makeover and create positive affirmations to reset your belief system.
Repeat positive affirmations out loud whenever you can. My top 3 personal affirmations are:
– Discipline or regret – I choose discipline
I would rather be a couch potato than exercise. So, I click my fingers 3 times and say this out loud. I visualize a healthy, fit, glowing me and get myself going. This has also helped me when I wanted to try a new habit to improve myself – like zero sugar, more water, etc.
– Done is better than perfect
I have the tendency to procrastinate my work because it is not as perfect as I would like. I use this affirmation to stay productive and keep going. Honestly, if I didn’t say this repeatedly – this blog will not exist! This blog was a 2016 goal. I had a deadline set. It was Dec and I hadn’t started – so a week before xmas I bought some webspace. With no clue about a name (I stuck with mine) and then just went ahead and published my first post all within a week! I also have to use it with every post and stick to my deadline – otherwise, I would go on tweaking forever.
– I choose happiness
Whenever I feel down, moody or have just exited a disagreement – I use this affirmation to pick me up. I breathe deeply and say these words out loud. It helps me reset and introspect. I don’t dwell on the negative – I am able to take action with an apology or just carry on with a positive mindset.
“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.” ~Buddha
So, let your mind work for you. If negative affirmation is the villain in your story, positive affirmation is the avenger. If you are seeking a happily ever after, for peace in your inner world and the manifestation of success in the outer world, the avenger must triumph.
I hope that you found some useful guidelines to make positive affirmations work for you. It really is one of the superheroes for personal growth.
Are there any other tips that we could use for an improved positive affirmation practice? Please share, I’d love to hear.