Why we need to turn our homes into our sanctuary
Every day, we go out into the world and despite all good intentions our happiness reserves deplete. We watch the news, listen to people complain and see anger and irritation written on tired faces. Bit by bit our peace drains away and stress sets in. We love nothing more than to get back to our safe home and leave it all behind.
Our return home allows us to tap into its storage supplies of security, peace, love, support, comfort and reassurance. It helps us relax, renew and restore our reserves to bravely take on the next day in strength and happiness.
A true home is one of the most sacred of places. It is a sanctuary into which men flee from the world’s perils and alarms. It is a resting-place to which at close of day the weary retire to gather new strength for the battle and toils of tomorrow. It is the place where love learns its lessons, where life is schooled into discipline and strength, where character is molded. Far more than we know, do the strength and beauty of our lives depend upon the home in which we dwell.~J.R. Miller
The merits of turning our home into the optimum sanctuary are therefore well worth our efforts. If you are a mom like me, then creating this haven of safety and protection for our kids deserves priority.
In the early 2000’s, I went through a Feng Shui phase. Later on, I became a huge Marie Kondo fan which transformed our home. Two years ago, as we prepared for immigration, Minimalism became my new chapter. All 3 stages interlaced have helped me create a beautiful sanctuary for my family.
Here are 11 tried and tested home sanctuary hacks to help you turn your home into the refuge you deserve
Let the good energy flow and raise the vibration
1. Keep the windows, front, and backdoor open for at least 20 minutes every day to allow new energy to enter and the stagnant energy to exit.
2 To clean the energy, open all doors and windows and move through each room with a burning smudge stick. Do this at least every 3 months.
I also rang a bell whilst my hubby followed me around with the burning smudge stick. This is especially important before moving into a new house. We start at the back end of the house and work our way to the kitchen, opening all closets and cupboards as we go along.
3 Burn frankincense oils as often as possible especially after there are disagreements in the house. The same for when your guests have left.
4 Create a spiritual spot in the house where you pray, meditate, journal and read spiritual books. This one spot can be your calm corner, your place of worship, your holy spot. The vibration in this space becomes way higher than any other space just from these spiritual practices.
We now have a 2-bedroom apartment with an open plan living space. So, I don’t have this previous luxury of a dedicated space. However, I created a spot between the kitchen and dining room (where my son can’t reach) for all of us to pray at.
Here I have a statue of Buddha and my Hubby has a framed photo of Jesus. My daughter has her crystals. We have a scented soy candle that we light each day when we pray. We keep our gratitude basket next to it. You can include anything that has a special or significant spiritual meaning to you.
5 Music that you enjoy is a great way to improve the overall energy in the house. We listen to anything that keeps us singing and dancing. My personal favorite for uplifting the vibration in the house is Deva Premal’s, Love is Space. I also have her mantra playing on in the background when I am cooking or writing.
Using kind and caring words in the house creates a home with loving energy, a safe space. Swear words or slang is not recomended (sometimes it can’t be helped, I know!). But at least strive to get this right 98% of the time.
Movies with violence, brutality, and swearing should also be kept on the low. I would be a fraud if I said none what-so-ever (although I am sure this would be best) – I am a huge Marvel/DC fan and I love comedies which usually includes a lot of swear words.
Anywoowoo…The above energy clearing methods have always worked beautifully in my home. It always feels refreshed and far more energized after doing this. Our spiritual spot radically raises the energy vibration and this filters into other spaces.
Keep only the useful that brings joy
6. Declutter & get organized – Remove the negative depressing energy from your home by decluttering. Get rid of things that you do not love or use anymore. Anything that is in excess or creates an untidy space needs to find a new home. Things that are left unfinished must be considered as clutter.
Every quarter my daughter and I conduct an official audit of our house. We move from room to room checking everything inside and out with fresh eyes. Anything out of place is immediately fixed. Things that we can’t resolve are immediately noted. We then create a plan to action all the areas that need work. (Did I mention that I was an ISO auditor in my previous work life…)
The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo created a global decluttering craze and made tidying trendy. I, of course, got my hands on her book and implemented her zen-like methods.
My friend, Sally Flower, is Australia’s First KonMari Trained Organising and Decluttering Consultant. Her business Organise Australia provides essential Tidying up packages to assist you in adopting the Konmarie Methods.
Sally has kindly provided some expert tidying/organising advice for my readers. I asked her what she thinks is the biggest mistake that people make when trying to organize their home? And, how would she advise us to overcome it? Here is her guidance –
“I believe the biggest mistake people make is tidying by room and not category. Decluttering or tidying by room limits us from actually seeing what we own and causes eminence decision fatigue. It is hard for our brain to calculate the necessity and location of varying objects. But if objects are grouped by category we can not only see how many items we own with similar function but it also limits the number of decisions we have to make. Enabling us to make better choices more quickly.
The second mistake people make is not pulling everything out of draws, cupboards, and storage. It’s scary throwing all the clothes you own on the floor, but it works. This method not only forces us to see what we have but helps mitigates the desire to slip past undecided items and ‘think about it later’.
To tidy well, you must first tidy by category and second take it aaaaallllll out, and lay it out!”
Light & Life, and beautiful things that inspire you
Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful ~ William Morris
7. Add something beautiful to the front of your house that can instantly change your energy before you enter. We kept a large statue of a Buddha alongside a bonsai which made me feel amazing every time I walked toward my door. Now we keep a beautiful Frangipani potted tree on the balcony – we call her Frani.
8. Add extra life with air purifying plants and loving animals. Indoor plants are not just beautiful to look at. They can purify the indoor air quality too. Click here for a copy of the study carried out by NASA and learn which plants will best serve you. If you are an animal lover, then adopt a pet and increase the love energy at home.
9. Always keep fresh flowers or a bowl of fruit on the dining room table. Have a wall mirror that reflects this to amplify the “richness” This is something we did consistently and its beauty has always done wonders for our spirit. (By the way, do not use dried flowers as they symbolize decay.)
10. Decorate with positive inspiration, affirmation, and motivation in mind. We always keep photos of family and special moments all over the house. We also use wall art with inspiring words to motivate and create positivity. I keep a laminated copy of my latest vision board on the fridge.
11. Add Colors and Light – Open up the blinds and let in natural sunlight. Decorate your home with colors that leave you calm and relaxed. Add colorful rugs, scatter cushions and throws to create warmth and coziness.
Our home is indeed our sanctuary. We must always ensure a good energy flow, raise the vibration, add life and light and surround ourselves with beautiful things to optimize its function.
Whether you live in a small, large or shared space, some simple routines and additions to your daily life can create a positive, meaningful living space that nourishes you.
I hope that there are a few tips here that can get you started. Are there any other things that we could do to create or optimize our sanctuary? Please share, I’d love to hear.
Enjoy creating and optimizing your home as your sanctuary. Love and light,